Weekly Ottersation Starters 🦦
Delivered on Wednesday's by The Otters & Dr. Bruce
Created from over 30+ years of experience helping couples navigate thousands of complex and intimate conversations about every imaginable aspect of coupling. Follow the Otters, Biscuit & Breezy, as you train to listen & talk your way through extraordinary Ottersations with one another.
The Gold Standard for Couple's Communication
What is an Ottersation Starter? 🦦
An Ottersation Starter is a thoughtfully crafted weekly experience designed to help couples go beyond small talk and connect on a deeper level.
Each week, you'll receive a short training video from Dr. Bruce and the Otters, plus a set of conversation-sparking questions via text and email, perfectly timed for date night.
Think of it as your communication guide to exploring emotions, dreams, memories, and perspectives you and your Swim Buddy might not discuss in everyday life. It's the thoughtful preparation that turns an ordinary evening into the connection you've been craving—keeping you both swimming in Ottersational waters.
How it works
Elevate conversations with your Swim Buddy (romantic partner) by subscribing to weekly training & Ottersation Starters, delivered by The Otters & Dr. Bruce.
Receive Ottersation Starters every Wednesday at 5PM via text message & email, right before date night.
Reignite your emotional connection with your Swim Buddy, one meaningful Ottersation at a time.
7/10 Couples Don't Make it*
When looked at over a 40-year period, only 3 in 10 couples stay in their first marriage.*Of all married couples, only 3 in 10 report truly being happy.For the 7 couples who divorce, as well as those who stay unhappily coupled, there are often chronic health issues & psychological landmines.
Learn how to Listen to your Swim Buddy
- More couples can make it.
- More couples can enjoy each other.
- Those who uncouple can keep their dignity.
Learn how to Talk to your Swim Buddy
- What if you could learn to talk to your Swim Buddy in a way that they would want to listen more?
- What if you could learn to listen to your Swim Buddy in a way that they would want to talk more?
- What if both of you could feel less alone, more connected to each other?
What We've Learned
About Couples
Couples want to talk more
Just look around the restaurant at the other couples. What do you see?
Couples can be trained to listen better
Better listening = More talking
Investment matters
Invest as much in your training to listen and talk to one another as you invest in other areas of your lives, including finances, health, and children
Don't delay
On average, couples wait six years after the onset of issues to seek help*
Clarify the Agreements
People start jobs with more clarity than relationships. Let's clarify our agreements to listen & talk to one another
*Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert. New York: Three Rivers Press.
Reconnect with your Swim Buddy now
Let the Otters & Dr. Bruce train you to Listen and Talk to one another about everything that matters to both of you.
Enhance Your Relationship
A brief glimpse into The Swim Buddy Playbook
Dr. Bruce Rumsey
His parents divorced and remarried one another before he was born. His parents, again, legally separated when he was 10 years old and reunited one year later. It was a relationship with lots of love and challenges.
Dr. Bruce has been in a relationship over 30 years, and they have five grown children. It’s been really good and really painful. During certain seasons, it has felt impossible to continue on. At other times, being apart has seemed unimaginable.
With a Ph.D. emphasis in Marriage & Family Therapy, and over 30 years of counseling couples, men & women, Dr. Bruce integrates approximately 80,000 hours of observations, experiments, and takeaways from these intimate conversations into this absolutely one-of-a-kind training guide for couples to listen and talk to one another.
Want to reconnect with your Swim Buddy?
Thoughtfully guided Ottersation Starters delivered by Dr. Bruce & The Otters
